Steve has been with La Ha for 14 months but has been in the chemical dependency field for 12 years. He is a case manager and what he loves most about his job is “the opportunity that God affords me occassionally to be present when someone comes to a new perspective or insight about their life.” Thanks Steve for doing all you do!
AA attendance was mandated for me by the criminal justice system over 20 years before I got sober. So, I went. All I ever saw or heard (because all I ever wanted to see or hear) was the droll repetition of the same ol’ stuff out of the same ol’ book by the same ol’ men every time I went. All I could hear these folks saying was “You can’t (fill in the blank)!” or “you can never again (fill in the blank)” or “If you (fill in the blank) you will surely relapse!” I perceived recovery to be very RESTRICTIVE! Here you are, new in sobriety and wanting to avoid all those terrible jails, institutions, divorces, car wrecks and coyote-wake-ups that became routine during your active addiction. So your initial objective is NOT TO DO all those things (that come in a bag or a bottle or britches or however your problems are packaged) that brought you to the brink of ruination. You are constantly exhorted to STAY AWAY from old playmates, playgrounds, playthings.
My perception has proven over these years to be wrong. I have learned that recovery is by no means restrictive….it is actually EXPANSIVE. It is much more about the things that I couldn’t do before that I can do now. I can be a father, a grandfather!, a husband, a friend. I can meditate, write, work, love, remember, laugh, exercise, BE PRESENT! I am doing things that I always dreamed about but could never, I am enjoying life and living in areas of my life where I haven’t always had areas.
Life is not diminished or restricted by recovery, it is enhanced and expanded. Millions of people in AA and NA can guarantee that! Get you some of it!