Here are some words of wisdom from Clayton Sponhaltz, LCDC. He has been with La Hacienda for 3 1/2 years and works with our male collegiate patients. They love him, he rocks (no pun intended).
Addiction takes many faces and carries many unwelcomed burdens. However, one of the most glaring and sometimes invisible factors may be dishonesty. In working with collegiate men looking towards beginning a life in recovery, many extreme and delusional thoughts are entertained vs. taking the needed action to move forward.
Therefore, let me introduce you to the ‘truth rock’. The exact origins of the truth rock are somewhat mysterious. It is known that this volcanic rock was given to a previous Collegiate case manager at La Hacienda well over 10 years ago. I was glad to inherit it along with its superficial power to allow the opportunity for others to get honest. There is a practice used with this ‘truth rock’ every now and then which, on the surface, is just another mechanism in group. I will explain that the only essential factor needing to be implemented while holding the ‘truth rock’ is to be rigorously honest with one’s self and the group. I then place the rock back down on the table and allow for the group to determine whether they have anything they need to share. I have been fortunate to watch a number of young men open up to the process of recovery by getting honest with themselves and others. Somehow, while group patients know this is just a rock, it can break the barrier well constructed over years of addictive thinking/behavior. It’s pretty cool—a simple reminder of how often we can benefit from somebody or something guiding us in the direction of getting transparent with others about how we are doing and what we are thinking.
“We can only clear the ground a bit. If our testimony helps sweep away prejudice, enables you to think honestly, encourages you to search diligently within yourself, then, if you wish, you can join us on the Broad Highway. With this attitude you cannot fail. The consciousness of your belief is sure to come to you.” BB pg. 55